Tsholofelo Zigwa has written a book titled ‘Before You say I do’ which is aimed at scrutinising all the articulate ‘must-do’ before women walk down the aisle. Zigwa believes that it is not good for someone to walk down the aisle with a low self-esteem. She says it is very clear that the exquisiteness of an engagement is important to females and that moment when a man kneels down makes them feel like queens. “Women treasure moments of love, romance and nuptial. They love gifts, when men are masculine and macho and as such like being on the lead,” she says. In the book she looks at all the excitement that comes with a preparation for marriage, from the families involved to friends and everyone around those who are getting married. She promises that the book offers alteration between marriage and wedding, the things that someone needs to know. Zigwa has dedicated the book to young people so that they can use it to validate the errors made in relation to inaccuracy and acting before someone thinks. “Though someone’s experience can be a better teacher, no one wants to go through it to experience it,” she says. She has been through it all and heard about it and wants to reach out to the young people who tend to live miserable and threatening lives with courting and relationships as the major factors that instigate most of their problems. The book has 15 chapters and explores marriage as a venture, courtship, my better half, cultivating a teachable spirit, changing yourself first, the power in the words first and small things that matter. She believes that with this book people will understand more that marriage is paramount predestined institution in heaven and as such getting into it with well thoughts will definitely enable them to have lasting marriages. She says the common difference between a wedding and a marriage is that a wedding is one day and a marriage is a lifetime.